This is a picture of me, a short version of what I lived and still living, My name is Sara and I do not like to keep secrets and that battles a certain man who swear he loved me, that I was the love of his life. He also said he did not know why he acted the way he did with me very few, actually one woman I never met named Stephanie brought that madness in him but she did not go screaming she actually went along with it and them beg to have sex. He also told me he had robbed and abused his children's mother and she did not acted that way trying to force me to be quiet but not in a million years I will let my guard down and take it. One time I got a pimple infected that became a boil and they decided take an X-ray and the Dr. asked me what happened to me I had a healed fracture on my face, I could not get words quick out my mouth when he softly begged not to say anything before I even related him to that. I ended up leaving the hospital where they were ready to admit me for that infection and a high fever.
We had walked about a mile when we were fighting, a woman that was dying to be me to be with him and who I had a fight before had came by with her so called husband and I had smacked her and ended up fighting both her husband and her while mine looked on and then left with my medication Rx which he disposed like I did not needed and which costed me another trip to the hospital but I did not stay quiet ever.
He will make excuses to come and hit me like he was mad screaming on the phone like a madman and the police would stop him because he could not find me quick so he lied that he had something to show me and when out the view will start punching me in the stomach to which I faked hurt and he would said I need to give you another shot until I hear or walk far enough from him and close to people to scream.
He had me arrested, put things he had on me and call the cops I even went to prison, came on parole and still he would show up and ask for me, call said I was cheating with the cook or delivery person of a parole house, when that did not work then became I harassed him trying to get me send back so I decided to really let the phone ring when he was not answering and guess who was the real cheater? This man changed the phone but kept calling mine and sending other people to let me know he is out there so I changed mine and for 3 months I was happy, stayed away over there finished my parole but as soon as he saw me he started reaching for me I gave him my phone number but he will not give me his because he wanted that control of me and doing what he wanted behind me, finally he gave his phone number up after I told him we would not be seeing each other and stood away and moved to a place with somebody he knew he would go to jail if he comes. The same story repeat itself but with little variations. Ms. Rita N. came into my life during that time and picked up on it and told me what kind of work she did and helped me understand what was going on and told me it would be hard and clear my mine.
I have been dealing with this for 10 years and it becomes easier and the more I resist and pull the less the abuse happens. Right now, this person took to get restraining orders against me after I put one on him. I was snatch across the street from the court house and took it off and rejected it 10 minutes after I came out of court I had gotten beaten badly a month later for putting the restraining order and got robbed by him. I walked into the police who did nothing and called the cops in my town, refused to talk to him so he harassed me on the phone so I told his parole officer and told him everything he was doing which everybody knew to defend himself he try to make me a crazy woman whom he had went out instead of his wife. He accused me of posting naked pictures on social media saying his P.O. had found it and informed him when it was none and he was the one who told his P.O. that so when I spoke the judge asked him to tell the officer to come to court by the time I went into the court room late the next time the case was dismissed not learning from that I was served a second time with a restraining order for the same reason, this time it got delayed again for him to gather proof and he showed up with a facebook page we had made together years earlier and who show him without shirt. On that page he had kept it a secret and wanted it off the net. I did not have the login information was given to him and now he was acting like I made this up without his permission, he remember the pictures but not the page and the name on the page was his but they had cut it out the pictures and he had made another page with his daughter. I used that page since he never invited nobody to document our relationship which I am entitled to.
Right now this person do not want me but phones and even offer to get me a gift for my b'day to which he never did, calls at 3 am when he returns home from whoever he is seeing and from 8pm to the next day or early morning do not answer or turns it off to try to manipulate me into not seeing nobody else and gets mad a his family members or friends if they talk to me or text me because he do not want anybody to had what he consider his property, me which is not his and which he really do not want anymore but the hell if he will let somebody else have me and this is what makes it still dangerous and which is a manipulation of him as an abuser not letting go of me his victim.
Some abusers are more dangerous than others and no one is better judge than his victim. She knows him better than anyone.
ReplyDeleteProblem is society is quick at judging and placing the blame on the victim for not leaving. She must like the abuse is the most common. To all those people who do not understand the dynamics of abusive relationships its easy to judge and point fingers. we dont expect you to unless you've been there walked in our shoes or felt our pain.
Fear has many faces